Thursday, May 15, 2014

For my big brother on his 30th birthday:

I Guess I Never Told You 

I guess I never told you that that obnoxious laugh of yours
actually makes me smile.
I guess I never told you that I always respected you
for your voracity in reading.
I guess I never told you that I was incredibly proud of you
when you graduated college.
I guess I never told you that I'm really happy I never broke your glasses 
all the times I thought of punching the daylights out of you.
I guess I never told you that I think it's really cool
all of the information you soak up just because you want to.
I guess I never told you that I forgive you
for anything you ever did to me.
I guess I never told you that as much as we may fight,
I'd smash the face of anyone who'd ever try to hurt you.
I guess I never told you I believe in you.
I guess I never told you I really do like when you say,
"I love you," even if it makes me feel uncomfortable.
I guess I never really told you I love you, too,
and I'm honored to be your sister.
So I'm telling you now,
and I hope that's enough.

Wednesday, June 26, 2013

The Last Day of the First Year of Teaching......

Wow, who would have ever thought that my first year of teaching would be in a foreign country? Who would have ever thought that I would survive, excel at, and even really like teaching? Who would have thought that I would learn how to work successfully with all different types of people and even stick up for myself in times of need? Some of you might have had this faith in me (and I certainly appreciate it), but I have to say I seriously had my doubts.

Additionally, who would have thought that I could so integrate into a society that going home means having to shelter parts of myself that my family and friends there wouldn't understand? Simple words and phrases that I would use in my everyday speech, like "habibi," "shukran," and "ma mushkala," are lost on most Americans. I know that I will miss the Middle East, even for the short amount of time I'll be in America.

This year has truly been a roller coaster ride- and not one of those smooth, metal roller coasters; it was definitely a wooden one. I had to negotiate my friendships, my work identity, my living situation, and my contact with the world outside of Bahrain (and for some people, Bahrain really is a world of its own). It has, no doubt, been an adventure, and one I'm happy to say will be continuing next year.

Despite loving my new life in Bahrain, I certainly am thrilled that my position offers me a paid ticket home every year. It's kind of like I can have my cake and eat it, too. If they only respected their employees more, I'm sure I could make this a lifetime venture. Nevertheless, America offers a lot of perks that Bahrain does not: mini golf, root beer, good Mexican and Chinese food and the best pizza, health food stores and farmers' markets, second-hand stores, a huge variety of cultural events, lots of museums, New York City, and of course, my family.

I'll be happy to return home, and I'll be happy to come back. Once a new language, a new culture is opened, it can never be shut off, and it is entirely a part of who you are. I am indebted to all of the people who supported me getting here and all of the people who made Bahrain and the Middle East what it is for me. I look forward to learning more in the years to come.

Monday, December 10, 2012

I Wonder

I wonder- can they sense the pain,
the pain I feel in my heart,
these men, these predators of Bahrain?

I wonder-is it the beaten saunter of my walk
that makes them roll on by
without that "Need a ride?" talk?

I wonder-do they see it in my face,
in the purse of these lips,
now as fine as lace?

I wonder-why do they stay away tonight?
Are they looking for easy fun,
without even a hint of a fight?

It's really no wonder
they look somewhere else,
for I'm a real woman, and they can't handle my thunder!

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

The Recess I'll Never Forget



Currently, I'm teaching how to write an autobiographical narrative in both 6th and 7th grades, so for them, I wrote a piece about one time in fourth grade when a hamster my class was taking care of scurried up my pants. My kids had such a blast with it that I thought I'd let you all have a laugh on me too!
The Recess I'll Never Forget
 
When I was in fourth grade, my teacher, Miss Pantazopolous, bought a pet for
 our class to call our own. We were allowed to keep the pet, a hamster, only if students volunteered to come in during recess to play with and feed it. I am not particularly fond of rodent-like animals, but I was excited to be a part of the class project and to spend time with my friend, Brittany.  
            On the day of the recess I’ll never forget, I stayed in the stuffy school, instead of going out in the fresh air. The thrill of getting the opportunity to play with the hamster pulsed through my veins, so seeing the beautiful shining sun didn’t matter much. My friend and I were the chosen ones for the day; we were special. I almost couldn’t contain myself. To be special is not something I have felt much in my life, so I was eating it up!
            Brittany and I grasped gently for our tiny, furry creature, each wanting a turn to play with it. Because we were such good friends, we knew how to share.
            “Hey Deena,” she said, “let’s sit across from each other and put our feet together. We’ll make, like, a play pen for him.”
            “Yeah!” I returned, so we sat ourselves down on the cold floor, the only warmth coming from the idea that we were getting a chance to do something no one else was doing. The silence of the classroom could have eaten us up if it hadn’t been for our own enthusiasm to play with this little guy.
            On that particular day, I was wearing what I thought to be oh-so-stylish at the time. It turns out that overalls weren’t really ever “in,” but I didn’t know that. The events of that recess forever changed my perspective on wearing overalls- to school, anyway!
            So there Brittany and I sat, on the dark green floor of our fourth grade classroom, excitement filling our two bodies, which were connected only by our shoes. Brittany placed the hamster between our legs, since I, again, am not crazy about picking up animals. It began to run around, and we giggled at the idea of this little creature not being able to find its way out of our temporary pen.
This went on for several minutes, and we began to distract ourselves with talk. All of a sudden, Brittany spoke.
“Where’s the hamster?”
Neither of us could detect its presence, so we stood up, brushing ourselves off from the dust of the floor. We stood there for a few seconds, looking around, when I felt something funny in my pant leg. The sensation continued, and it didn’t take long for realization to set in: the hamster was in my pants! As fourth grade girls are prone to do when something like this happens, I screamed and screeched, a chill running through my body from this thing that was way too close for comfort.
That hamster crawled quickly, and before I knew it, it was all the way up my pant leg. I shook my body vigorously from top to bottom, trying all I could to remove it from my pants. It was no longer a cute, little, fuzzy creature that I loved; it had become a rodent that I didn’t want around.
Finally, with the force of someone who is desperate, I managed to coach the hamster back down my pant leg, and it returned to the floor where it belonged.
“Got it!” Brittany cried. I sighed a sigh of relief, and we replaced it safe and sound in its cage before it could cause any more damage. With the fear of this foreign creature in my pants gone, I broke out in laughter. Brittany and I giggled for the rest of the recess, but deep down inside, I knew I would never get close to a hamster again. And I would never forget that recess for the rest of my life.    

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Gosh, It's been too long!

Well, family and friends, my apologies for waiting so long to write a post. No excuses. I just didn't do it. Here's an entry I wrote in one of my many journals about my a part of my experience in Dubai for Ashoora break (slash my most favoritest birthday ever! Rock on 26!):

We crammed into the back seat of the small buss, all four of us American women set apart from the sea of caramel- and carob- colored faces in front of us. It seemed two separate families from different parts of the world filled the seats like water moves into the cracks and ditches of macadam. They were foreign to us, and we felt apart from them, a spectacle, perhaps.

When the second family had taken its seats directly in front of ours, they began to look at us, the two men who were clearly the patriarchs of the family chattering amongst themselves between glances our way. The bolder one turned around, and in his broken English, asked from where we came. We replied with the usual, "We're from the United States." Eyes widening, he said, "Oh!" and along with the other man, began to laugh. I was puzzled. Was this emotion true? Were they happy to see us or were they making fun of us in this unknown mother tongue of theirs?

Several other questions were asked, as the men searched for ways to communicate with us, to understand us and have us understand them. Again, the first man asked where were were from. We replied again, this time saying, "We're American." A true look of understanding washed across his face, and he excitedly began to chatter again in this foreign language. He signaled the young girl who was sitting in the seat in front of him, and after a few seconds, she told us, "We're from Iran." Understanding now washed over our faces as we finally comprehended why they did not respond to our brief attempts to speak in, admittedly, broken Arabic. Farsi, after all, is the language spoken in Iran.

With further chatter and excited laughter, the entire family got involved, all seven of them. "You know Ahmedinijad?" the first man asked us. Yes, of course we did. He was the ruler of Iran. "Bad man," the second man responded, "Terrorist." Ah, so they were just like us, used to taking the blame for their government's wrongdoings. To our great surprise, President Obama's name came up and soon a chant began, spanning the entire length of the bus. Was this for real?

As we neared our stop, it became clear they were staying and we began our goodbyes. Sincerity rang out in their voices and spread across their faces as they bid us well for our last day in Dubai and welcomed us to visit Iran. Oh, if only one day; I would love to come, I thought. We likewise encouraged their visit to the United States, and with smiles on our faces, we exited the bus.

How different this interaction was compared with those I had four years ago in Ireland, the Netherlands, and Italy. Perhaps it was the interaction of two groups of people just trying to live the happiest lives possible, trying to understand others and have others understand them, as individuals, in spite of the work their governments have done to ruin these possibilities. Whatever the reason, it became clear to me that there are good people everywhere. If we shut out people based on their color, creed, mother tongue, or any other grouping that can separate people, we miss wonderful opportunities for interactions like this one, and we fail to see the world for what it really is in favor of our own skewed image. I choose to let people in, and that may hurt sometimes, but experiences like this far outweigh the pain I suffer, and in the end, I know I will be a better person because of them.

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

"The simple things of life are best"

Reading through one of my favorite books, A Cherokee Feast of Days, today, I realized that I haven't written on here for a WHILE. It's not because I don't have time. In reality, I have a lot of free time. Unfortunately, as the selection for October 2 reads, "One elusive goal after another makes us hurry by some beautiful times." For the last two weeks or so, I haven't given myself any time to just sit down and be. My nature is to keep going until I'm so tired I physically can't go anymore. For a while now, I haven't gotten more than 5 or 6 hours of sleep, which is not enough for me. Most of the time, I don't even cook my own food because I can't stand the thought of taking time out and using energy to cook on just myself, without the company of others. I realized today that if I continue on this path, I'll burn out by next week.

Part of the problem, aside from the lack of sleep, is that my apartment is in shambles. We don't have a washing machine, as in it doesn't exist in our apartment. Several weeks ago, we notified the school that our washing machine was broken, and, to our great surprise, it was actually removed from our apartment. Still, we haven't seen a new one yet. Last week (yes, over a week ago), I was sitting on my bed at about 6 o'clock in the morning and all of a sudden, heard a luminous sound coming from my bathroom. I walked in, only to find a waterfall coming from my ceiling. The way things go here, I knew there wasn't anything anyone would do for me. Nothing is considered an emergency. It's all Insha'allah, which literally means "if God wills it," but in practical terms means, "I can take as much time as I want to get this done." And so, a week later, my broken water heater has drained all of its water and left me with a shower that doesn't work. And has anyone done anything about it? Oh no.....not at MKS. That would mean actually treating people the way they're supposed to be treated. I could go on, but I've said my part.

Like I was saying, however, I feel like my life is just go, go, go, and this whole apartment deal has gotten me way too hot under the collar. Part of me says I should make their lives a living hell until something gets done and another part of me just wants to say it's not worth the stress of waking up every morning with a pit in my stomach. And at this point, all I want is a little less stress in my life, so at this moment, ignoring the issue it is!

Onto "the intricacies of life," the things that make life worth living, like the most amazing cheese ever: halloumi. Or my wall of pictures, cards, and letters from home. Or maybe even just the cup of chai tea I'm having right now. I am really lucky to have what I have, despite all of the negatives things I could focus on. Oh and how could I forget about my students? Truly, I have the most amazing kids. For 6th and 7th graders, they really are spectacular. I know when I'm gone I'll miss them. As a teacher, you grow to love your students like your own, and if it came down to it you'd do just about anything for them.

Ah, and one more intricacy of life: being in the freaking Middle East. I'm always adjusting my perceptions of this world over here, as opposed to the West. Today, we had a bit of excitement at the school. Apparently, some protesters were burning tires next to the school, so the oh- so- brilliant police decided to set off some tear gas to disperse the protesters. Unfortunately, there were children who were outside and others who were inside but were affected because the windows were open. Luckily, my room is about as far away from where the tear gas was set off, so my class perceived nothing until we were all told we couldn't go to break (lunch). All in all, a little excitement never hurt anyone, but it would be nice if the police considered small children when they decided to set off tear gas.

Overall, life has been less exciting and more labor-some in the last few weeks, and I'm beginning to truly see what being a first year teacher is all about. Still, I wouldn't change it for the world. I just have to learn how to see the intricacies of life and not let beauty pass me by.

Thursday, September 13, 2012

Week #2 Down!

Well, week number 2 has come to an end, and I must say it's been a bit interesting. I began the week with someone throwing up at the entrance of our hallway right before the bell rang (awesome) and me having to direct traffic so more people didn't slip through it (even more awesome). I swear, after this, it's all downhill.

Also, there were some protests this week (or was that last? time just flies by!), but it didn't really mean anything other than we were rerouted on the bus one day going home and the one day I stayed after I had to take a cab home instead of walking the half hour. Boo hoo. Apparently, this weekend there are supposed to be massive and widespread protests, but to be honest, I'm really not worried. We were joking on the bus that a "protest" here means a little smoldering fire on the street. It's probably a bit more than that, but you it's certainly not as dangerous as Syria or Egypt or Libya, for that matter.

Still, the government doesn't take any chances with its king. Yesterday, one of the "oldies, but goodies" from last year took me to the bank (with one of the newbies) and we got stuck in all kinds of traffic. There were police cars, bikes, armored vehicles, etc. everywhere. Something HAD to be going on. We thought it was maybe a protest until we were stopped in traffic and there was no one on the other side of the highway but police every now and then driving by. Then the police cars started more heavily and we saw a really nice cream-colored car drive by with some guy in a headdress sitting in it. We thought it was probably some mid-level politician, but I heard today it was the king. Meh. I saw the king of Bahrain. No big deal. (Actually, I couldn't care less, but it's still something to talk about I guess.)

In other news, our school is ridiculous. Two weeks into school, the owner/superintendent decides that we need to change our schedules. So my schedule isn't changing, but pretty much everyone else will be switching around. Some teachers will be moved out of the middle school into the high school. Some with have to teach over several different grades. Others will have to teach over several different subjects. Pretty awesome. And if you think it's just the teachers changing, you wrong! All of the 7th graders' schedules will be changing as well and some of the 6th and 8th graders' schedules will be changing as well. So this is the frustration of teaching in an American school in Bahrain: it's nothing like America! :-)

Finally, tomorrow I'm supposed to be going to brunch with the whole crowd (I think there will be 20 of us). Friday brunch is kind of a big deal here. You dress up, guys wear suits, women wear dresses. You eat and drink (alcohol, yes) to your heart's desire and then you get to go on the beach (which, admittedly, I've heard is nothing to speak of, but it's still freakin' sweet). Sounds like an amazing time. Unfortunately, it'll only cost me 20/25 B.D. Multiply that by 2.6 and you've got roughly how much I'll be spending on one meal with alcohol. That blows. Still, I feel like I'd be missing out big time if I didn't go. Soooooo I'll let you know if it was worth it the next time I write.

Until then, YOU all stay safe and be happy. I'll be doing the same!